Terengganu government had offer a free trip to warring couples!!Under this plan, the feuding couple can enjoy 3 days 2 nights stay in tropical island of Terengganu states. Do you know how much does this cost???This is worth Rm1500 for just 3 days 2 nights stay!!!Why is the Terengganu government doing this?? This is because they wanted to strengthen family ties. If a marriage breaks down, it will hurt the children and it will have serious implications on society. Why many newly wedding couple choosing divorce as their last resolution?? What is the problem that make them to choose divorce as their last resolution??Among them are financial issues and problems related to their in-laws.Before marriage, all was good. But after marriage, some are unable to cope with the new challenges. Before married, your husband or wife may call you darling or honey or sweetie,but right after married they might even just call their spouse by their name or just wei or eh. We can see that the drastic change before and after married. After married, husband and wife are busy concentrating on their career. For those who had children, one might focus on taking of the family while the other might focus on their career.After whole day working, house is a place for their tired soul to rest. So even in the same room they might not talk to each other because of too tired or maybe they don't have a common topic to talk. Soon on later, they had adapted to this kind of lifestyle where they only talk when necessary. When a problem occurs, they will blame on the other one. This is the time where they start to quarrel and they found that their spouse had a drastic change. They found out that this is not the one I knew before marriage. Then they will think whether are they still suitable to stay under the same roof after all. They choose divorce because soon on later they found that this would be the best resolution for both of them. They might feel relief but what about the children? What will they feel? If their children is young it actually will leave an impact in their heart. They will think that maybe is their fault or they might wondering why is my parents are separated. How the parents should answer these kind of question when their children ask them?? Have the parents think of the impact that will be in their children heart if they choose to divorce? If you know that this is not the right person, why bother to get married? When you choose to marry, this means that he or she is the one you want to live with forever not just because for the sake of marry. Some couples marry after knowing each other for few months and when they get married they only found out that they are not suitable for each other.There are cases where the couples know each other for quite some time but they also end up divorce. If you don't know the person character well and you know you can't tolerate it,please think twice before you want to marry.The proposal maybe very romantic and very touch but then it doesn't mean that he is the one you are supposed to marry.Can you imagine when you step into a primary classroom, there are at least 2 students parents is divorce?? Imagine if 20 years later,it might turn out to 70% of the students parents is divorce!! Parents and couple soon to be marry please think properly the impact and also whether is it necessary for you to do that. You spend money when you get married and you spend money when you divorce.Is it worth it after all?Where is all the sweet memories you all have together?Where is the hardship when you two been through? Doesn't all these memories makes you to choose him or her as your spouse? I hope that the divorce rate will decrease to the minimum in future even though it is hard to achieve.I can't imagine what the society will become if the divorce rate increase rapidly in future.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
FAMILY OR FRIEND? FROM THE SCOPE OF REVOLT TEENS
Do you realize that sometimes in your life, you have to decide whether to choose your family or your friend. This situation usually occurs among teenagers because in this stage of life teens often to spare more of their time with their friends. I would like to share about how actually this thing can appear in anybody’s life without their intention to get into it.
When you reach the teen ages, you often spent your time with your friends which means much less time with the family. Slowly, who’s you’re being friend with will be a part of yourself. If you were being friends with good ones, maybe you’ll be a good person too. But if you were being friend with the bad ones, maybe you will be a bad person too. But not all situations are like this. Back to the topic, when you were with your friend, you often think that what you were doing was right although it is actually wrong. You will also felt happy when you done something that against the good manners. Then you will develop the feel that you are old enough to make a decision for your life. This is the time that your family will get in your life. As a family should always do, your family will try to get you back into the line where you supposed to be. Then the situation of family or friend will occurs. Some of teens that lucky and strong enough to encounter this situation usually will choose the family instead of friend. This type of teen is actually still considering their future and their family’s feelings. But often, friends will win the situation as teens have created a barrier between family and their self. This situation next will increase the numbers of runaway teens and increasing the social problem in the country. So, ask yourself whether you will choose family or friends when you are in this situation. But remember, it always easier to said than done.
social networking - faceBOOK!
I'll stress on Facebook because it was ranked as the most used social network by worldwide monthly active users in January 2009, research done by Compete.com. A bit about Facebook, it was a global social networking website that is operated and privately owned by Facebook Inc. Facebook was founded by Mark Zuckerberg with his college roomates and fello computer science students Eduardo Saverin, Dustin Moskovitz and Chris Hugheswhile he was a student at Harvard University.
Having a Facebook account is something worth in social life. By just logging in into the account, users can add friends and send them messages, and update their personal profiles to notify friends about themselves. Additionally, users can join networks organized by city, workplace, school, and region. The website's name stems from the colloquial name of books given at the start of the academic year by university administrations with the intention of helping students get to know each other better.
Facebook-ing is fun, but sometimes too much Facebook-ing can distract someone’s life. What I mean is, for example students, me myself, I think too much Facebook-ing makes me procrastinate to do what I have to do especially study. As a student law student to be exact, we ought to spent much time face the book not Facebook-ing. Most my friends keep complaining about too much Facebook-ing and sometimes even ask the Facebook to stay away from them (me too) but still, they keep opening their page, commenting on others and playing games, quiz and so on there. It was like there is a “Never Log Off” policy when you have a Facebook account.
I think having a Facebook account is not wrong, but it depends on how that person manage their time. Social Networking do give benefits to us. We can get more friends, discussing about problems in study and also express feelings. The most fundamental thing to do is have fun but at the same time, study. In the exam mood like now, it is actually doesn’t matter if students Facebook-ing 24 hours a day 7 days a week, as Facebook-ing can be a medium to discuss about subjects that we learn, for example Contract Law.
Again, I want to stress out that this social networking matter is subjective to talk about. Therefore, on whatever things I have listed down, one should do this –especially students - Facebook-ing while face the book.
The Cat Girl....
The Figure above show the back of the child, where the mole that being thought as the birth mark become the nightmare to the child and her family:
The Cat Girl…It is a true story…
Have you ever wondered, one day you realize that the small mole on you body that you thought as your birth mark turn bigger and furry day to day. Then, the weird mole now has conquered all part of your body until it make people think that is your skin and you find that you are being isolated by all of your friends. This is what happened to a poor girl from Fengkai, China. She is only six (6) years old but need to suffer from this mystery disease. Now, she is being tease and her friends keep calling her as “Cat Girl”.
At first her parents, Li Yan and Li Jiang thought that the mole that appears on Li Xiao Yuan’s back since several months ago is only birth mark of her daughter. But recently the mole has turn bigger and thick hair start growing on the mole. Both of the parents are really worried about what had just happened to their daughter. They also said that all of the children in their neighborhood starting to hate and isolated their daughter.
The parents have brought their daughter to see a doctor, but the doctor said that it just only a birth mark. But it is weird when the mole keeps getting bigger and furry day after day. The parents are so depressed and sad due to the physical condition of their daughter. Then, now they seek for medical treatment from a surgeon from Zhaoqing Dermatology Hospital, Dr Lou Zhongquan. The surgeon said that Xaioyuan maybe suffered from mysterious disease that trigger her mole to become bigger and causes the mole to produce the unstoppable fur growing.
According to the surgeon, the children can be treat by using laser treatment if only the mole is small but the problem now the mole has conquer half part of the child’s body. Moreover, it is difficult to use laser treatment to treat such a big area of mole because it will involve a long time treatment and highly cost. Although the surgeon said the child can undergo the operation to remove the mole but there is a risk to be considered. Unfortunately, the surgeon also said when the child undergo the operation maybe it can lead to the lost of life of the child because the operation can cause the unstoppable bleeding to the child. The situation has become so tense because there is no way can be found to treat the child.
I felt really sorry to this child because at the age of six, she need to suffer the mystery disease and hear all the insult that been make by her friend toward her. I believe that she is now so sad and depressed because her friends now keep calling her with the “Cat Girl” name and they seem to ignore her. I really hope that there a research can be make in order to find the cure for this disease. So that Xiaoyuan can life like she used to be before.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Banning Spree
You know, I think Malaysia is soon going to be famous for banning things.
Two weeks ago, the ministry of health threaten to ban preserved plums from china because those plums contained a high level of lead which could result in a woman being infertile. Now, that is what I call banning with a reasonable reason. If those preserved plums really contained such dangerous ingredient, then banning it would do well.
This week, the hype is on banning condoms and horror movies.
Let’s be reasonable, banning condoms? As it is the percentage of unwanted teenage pregnancy is high enough, imagine banning condoms! I am pretty sure, the percentage would rocket sky high. I am not saying I agree with promiscuous activities. No. I just think it’s better for those teenagers to practice safe sex rather than getting pregnant and later on dumping the child in dustbin, public toilets or burying them alive!
Besides that, condom is also a mean used to prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Well, adults are no angels, some have multiple sleeping partners therefore the chances of contacting one of those diseases are definitely high. Besides that, it also a mean to prevent AIDS. Well, in a relationship, people do get intimate and I am pretty sure even people with AIDS are no exception therefore, condom is the answer. Even so, it’s not 100% safe. It is a risky thing.
So let’s just imagine without condom, percentage of unwanted teenage pregnancy would rocket sky high. Check. Percentage of promiscuous adults contacting STDs would rise. Check. Percentage of people contacting AIDS MIGHT go up, depending on the situation. Check. Oh, and last but not least, condoms are also used as a family planning method. So without it, our population would multiply like crazy so.. the percentage of population would rocket into space. Check.
I’ve named four negatives impact on banning condoms, name me four positives and I’ll call it even. Right now, I see negatives rather than positives.
Now as for horror movies, I totally DO NOT agree with banning them! I am a huge horror movie buff, banning it would definitely, definitely make me upset. I guess, horror movies does not educate people but tell me, does cicak man, jin notti or bohsia actually educate people? I think not.
Oh, I have even watched Pontianak Sundal Harum Malam (is that the title? The one starring Maya Karin?). That movie wasn’t that good but it got into some international movie competition didn’t it? And our very own Maya Karin won awards for playing the Pontianak. So let’s ban horror movies eh? Ironically, our local horror movie actually got our country into the international movie scene.
I see horror movies as a way to escape reality. Whenever I am down or upset, I watch horror movie, because by doing so, I wouldn’t think of what upset me and the problem would at least stop plaguing me for awhile. The adrenaline rush while watching a horror or slasher flick is exciting (beware, I may be a sadist for all you know.) to me.
And since we have the Censorship Board, isn’t that enough already? To edit scenes which are too scary or gruesome. And by doing so it actually minimize the scare factor just so the weaker hearts and the younger people can watch horror movie.
If the reason is, it’s not good for health or so. I suggest those with weak hearts or individuals who can’t take horror movie to avoid horror movie for good. I mean, why torture yourself if you can’t take it?
Overall, I think it is not a wise idea to ban horror movie. Horror movie fans would definitely hold a rally if they do and furthermore, our local movie scene depended on Pontianak Sundal Harum Malam to make it to the international movie scene.
So let’s just leave horror movies alone for now, please?
Ugly People - from the inside
Have you guys read the news recently about the Chinese guy who got bashed up just because he accidently ran his car into some parked motorbikes just to avoid another car?
Well, he was avoiding the car in front, and he lost control of his car. Then he served into some motorbikes parked somewhere close by. And guess what? Those motorbike owners, wasn’t too concern about the driver, they were enraged that the driver drove his car into their bikes, thus ganging up and bashed up the poor driver badly. It’s not just that, NOBODY went to his help. In fact, some selfish and greedy being even took advantage of the situation and robbed the driver while he was at his most vulnerable.
Somehow this whole situation makes me wonder what has become of us, human, now. We were thought from young to lend a helping hand to those in need. Obviously, the driver needed help, but what were those people witnessing the whole ordeal doing, beside , just standing aside and watch the drama unfold? What’s worse that some people can actually take the opportunity to loot the poor victim!
I sympathize with the victim. The picture of him in the newspaper definitely wasn’t pretty at all. His eyes were both swollen in purple colour (something I thought the movies exaggerated) and he needed more than 10 stitches to an injury on his head. I suppose he was lucky to even have survived the attack.
Also, it makes me wonder, why is it that Malaysian mentality is always on “mind your own business”. It’s because of such thinking that most of us, refused to help, refused to get ourselves involved. Are we that afraid of being victimized as well? I can answer you, yes. Why? Well, in another of a recent case, a Caucasian, I suppose he was working here, decided to help this poor old lady whose handbag was on the verged on being snatched. Being a gentleman, and also, I suppose, being how he was brought up, he decided to help her. And because of him helping, he was shot by the snatch thieves and sadly, he succumbed to the gunshot wound.
Malaysian mentality is that, if it’s not our problem, don’t get involved. I am not proud to say that but that is how we are. It is pretty well proven really. I suppose that, even so, the by standers who were watching the drama unfold, could at least inform the police anonymously instead of standing aside and watch the whole thing and not doing anything. I don’t know why but reading that piece of news really got me upset over the “mind your own business” mentality and also, our country’s moral standard. I agree that we can’t judge the whole basket of eggs just because of an bad egg, but, it somehow reflects us in a way.
One Malaysia, a dream that seems so far away. To me, it’s not just about races living in harmony, it is also about helping each other. We are living in harmony, we do help each other but to what extend? That is the question that keeps playing in my mind. And that news, is a fragment to the answer that I needed. I suppose there is still time for us to improve ourselves.
Let’s hope that in the future, there will be no more of the “mind your own business” mentality among us.
STRESS
My sister told me the first thing i need to do is try to relax and keep my mind fresh....Because of that, i try to look for some ways to reduce my stress!!! Luckily, i found some ways and i wish to share with my dear friends!!!!
First of all, do you all know what is stress?
Stress is defined as our reaction to the external environment as well as our inner thoughts and feelings. It isn't only what happens to us that creates stressful feelings, but it's how we feel about what happens to us. Learning to control our thoughts through meditation, yoga, and other mind quieting techniques can be very helpful in reducing stress levels. Like the Buddhists say, become the calm in the center of the storm.No one can live without experiencing some degree of stress all the time, according to Hans Selye, M.D., the father of modern stress research. He writes in his book, The Stress of Life: "Stress is not even necessarily bad for you; it is also the spice of life, for any emotion, any activity causes stress. But, of course, your system must be prepared for it."During times of increased stress, our body's nutrients are used more rapidly to meet these needs so we require increased amounts of many of these nutrients. The antioxidant vitamins A, E and C, the B vitamins and the mineral zinc, selenium, calcium, magnesium, iron, potassium, sulfur and molybdenum are some of the nutrients that are commonly depleted by stress.
Fortunately there are a number of ways to prepare the body for stress. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
1. Meditate, pray, or do yoga each morning. The simple technique of quieting the mind, following the breath, and relaxing the body can put you in the right frame of mind for getting through a stressful day with a positive mental attitude.
At Work. During the day the stress mounts, whether at home or at your place of work. This can result in tension, headaches, back pain or lack of focus and general unproductivity. A few simple ways to help reduce these stress symptoms is to: Change your position or take a quick walk around the office, drink some water, stretch, or do a yoga exercise. One great way to accomplish this is right on your computer, Reduce Stress at Your Desk on Holistic.com has 4 free different streaming video exercises designed to be done in your chair that target your neck, back, shoulders and upper back. They run from 4-6 minutes each and have proven to be effective.
2. Exercise. Walking 20 minutes per day can change body chemistry in a way that calms the nervous system and reduces stress levels. Aerobic exercise is especially good for producing endorphins in the body - which are natural soothing hormones released during sustained exercise.
3. Make dietary changes. Reducing sugar, carbohydrates, caffeine and alcohol in your diet can go a long way towards getting your body back into a healthful balance. It's now recognized that when we eat carbohydrates, these foods turn directly into sugar in our bodies. The more sugar we eat, the more depleted our B-vitamins become. B-vitamins are essential for a healthy nervous system.
4. Supplement with vitamins and minerals. Taking a daily multi-vitamin, mineral supplement and B-vitamin supplement can strengthen your nervous system whether you're already depleted by stress or storing up for an onslaught of stressful circumstances. The mineral calcium is especially helpful for calming the nerves and toning up the nervous system. Athletes preparing for a race understand that extreme physical activity can be stressful and boost their bodies with nutrients beforehand. Take 3,000 mg of Vitamin C per day to help maintain a healthy nervous system while under stress.
5. Use herbs in tincture and tea form to calm yourself:
- The Ginsengs: Both Panax ginseng (Korean ginseng) and Siberian ginseng (Eleutherococcus senticosus) have been shown in numerous studies to support adrenal function and enhance resistance to stress. Both Ginsengs are adaptogens, which means they restore balance, stimulating a function when it is low, subduing it when high. Both can be used to restore vitality, increase feelings of energy and well being, increase mental and physical performance and enhance the body's response to stress.
Valerian: clinical studies have shown Valerian's ability to relieve insomnia, decreasing time needed to fall asleep while increasing deep sleep.
Kava Kava: European studies have found Kava effective in the treatment of nervous anxiety, insomnia, restlessness as well as reduce heart palpitations, chest pains, headache and gastric irritation.
Enjoy a cup of herbal tea at night. Create a bedtime ritual of drinking chamomile tea to relax. Or try an herbal liquid tincture sleep formula containing chamomile.
Homeopathic remedies are scientifically proven effective and side-effect free. Try one of the many sleep formulas on the market that contain chamomile and other sleep inducing remedies.
Feel very awkward right?? How about this!!!
- Turn off the TV: This might sound obvious but watching the financial news channels all day long will only increase your stress level since they report on the latest downs in the stock market on a minute-by-minute base.
- Go for a walk: This time of the year is so precious, especially if you live in an area with tons of trees. Take time to reconnect with Mother Nature and take time to escape from all the bad news.
- Call up a friend: Sometimes, just the fact of spending time with a friend over a cup of coffee or a walk can make a huge difference to the way you feel. Don’t underestimate the power of human contact and friendship when times are difficult.
- Take advantage of free events: Each city has a list of weekly free activities that are open to the public. Grab a newspaper and find out which ones might interest you and go out there and discover something new!
- Hang out at your favorite bookstore: This is an activity I’ve always enjoyed so much. You can spend hours just browsing and looking at the latest books. Who knows, this might spark your creative juices!
- De-clutter your home: Most North Americans have closets and even garages filled with products that they’ve bought and never used. In many cases, a lot of us still have sales tags on items that are just sitting there. This might be the perfect time to clean up your home and organize a garage sale or you take your clothing to secondhand stores. Remember that someone’s junk is someone else’s treasure. Also, because times are tougher, many people will turn to secondhand stores and garage sales to find affordable items for themselves or to give as gifts during the Holidays.
- Treat yourself to a hot bubble bath by candlelight: This is such a relaxing activity. If you take as little as thirty minutes to soak away your worries, you’ll feel like a new person.
- Bake your favorite cookies or your favorite cake: Nothing is more comforting than homemade desserts and cookies. Why not take time to make some and take the time to enjoy them. The activity of baking will get your mind off of things and your hands working. Now, you might have to buy a few extra ingredients that you don’t usually store in your pantry, but this stress-reducing activity should not cost you much. Note: If you are stresses everyday, please don't eat a cake everyday. This is for occasional use only!
- Brew a special cup of tea or coffee and sit down in your favorite chair: Grab a book or your favorite hobby magazine and take some “me” time. Even if you’re able to take 30 minutes of “me” time while the kids are away at their piano lessons … this will do you a world of good.
- Update your photo album: We usually take photos of the happy times we want to remember. By updating your photo album and putting in recent photos you’ve not had the time to file yet, you can be transported to those times where you were happy and smiling. The feeling from this activity will surely lift your spirits and lower your stress levels.
Still the same?? This is last want i manage to find....
1. Define your goals: we must define our life goals and begin to achieve these goals; this action will support us against stress because we will feel that we know what our life purpose is and why, and that we control our own lives.
2. Take control of your diet: we can use simple ways in our diet plans to reduce stress by avoiding some stimulants such as coffee, alcohol, tea and sugar and we can use chamomile tea as an alternative because of its calming and relaxing effect. We need to eat slowly in a calm environment to allow our digestive system to work well. We can use honey as an alternative to sugar but in small amounts (one or two spoonfuls per day).
3. Take hot baths regularly: after a very busy day or when we feel that we need to relax (I do this three times a week). You can take a hot bath by sitting in warm to hot water and the water level should be above the waist, using lavender oil can also enhance this relaxing experience.
4. Aromatherapy: in the office you can use aromatherapy to relax and avoid stress. One of the best ways is to use lavender oil on a source of heat and take in the scent; this is a great way to relax during the day when you need it the most.
5. Exercise: This is one of the important things you can do which will reduce stress and bring happiness. When we exercise, our brains release substances which bring feelings of happiness and relaxation; we need engage in some exercise regularly such as walking, dancing or swimming.
6. Breathing techniques: Yoga, meditation and Tai Chi all use deep breathing techniques. To meditate, simply sit with closed eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Breathing deeply regularly is great for health and from there, you can learn various other breathing techniques to gain enhanced benefits.
7. Relaxation techniques and self hypnotherapy: we can easily do this after the hot bath to relax even more, simply sit or lie down in a comfortable place with your eyes closed, imagine there is a spot light above your head and concentrate on it, then concentrate on your body part by part and try to relax the body and feel the relaxation deepening -- you can also use a self hypnotherapy audio tape to help in this process.
8. Massage: this is a great way to reduce stress, I do this when other ways fail, I feel better after receiving a massage. You can get a professional massage or you can simply ask your partner to massage you.
9. Spiritual healing: prayers and the act of helping others are very important components for happiness and stress reduction. You will feel calmer and have a sense of inner peace.
10. Talking through your problems: talking about your feelings acts as a releasing mechanism and you will soon find that talking about your problems with your partner or best friend may help the solution to the problem come to light and will help to release blocked emotions.
11. Multivitamins: I take a Vitamin B complex regularly to decrease stress and this has been a great help in my stress reduction.
However, i know that everyone have their own way to reduce their stress...My hope in sharing this information with you is that you can benefit from it. However, just reading it cannot help you from reducing your stress....You need to take action after you read!!!
